Being Criticized

Mans growing up process and the entirety of his life will legitimately and definitely involve certain amounts of objurgation. The prefatory principle is that between the two parties involved in the process of criticism the person criticizing and the person receiving the criticism there is a certain so-called honor or rule or way of life or way of thinking that is being imposed upon. Since most criticism involves interaction of two raft .. the Demander and the Perceiver. The Demander is the person from whom criticism comes.The Perceiver is the person who perceives the demand in a critical way. In fact, criticism is a demand for someone to do something. Developmentally, this rallying between the demander and perceiver has its origin in the pargonnt-child relationship. In later life it continues as the perceiver sees the demander as a person in world-beater. The perceiver gains the power to the demander who is viewed as an unequal and in a superior position. All criticism, reg ardless of the form in which it is expressed, has its origins in one fundamental principle.This single principle is what I have called the Truth-Imposition Dilemma of Mankind. (Smith 2006) And I have had my own share of criticism from family, teachers, acquaintances and foes alike. What has adjoined me most deeply (and I think will forever affect me) is how my parents are critical near the friends I choose to keep. From the variations of you are the compevery you keep as posed by Miguel de Cervantes to the Confucian admonition of have no friends not equal to yourself guide the probing eyes, nose and ears of my parents about my friends (old and new alike).They keep on reminding me about those wisdom whenever they learn anything about my friends. Or, whenever I progress to a new friend and I get to introduce him or her to my parents. I get to be reminded and/or reprimanded whenever I passed even a number of a second of my curfew to get back home after a day out with my friends. And my parents are very dicey about things that a friend or two would be inclined to, like piercing, tattoo, smoking, speed driving, bike riding, rap music, provocative girl clothes, multicolored dyed hair, spikey hair cuts, very showy blings.Although my parents criticize them to me in private and in a civilized and placid and constructive way, I am still mystified as to why they are always wary of me and my friends. I must also admit that my parents exercise appropriate choice of words still, I feel remorse that my parents could be short-sighted about their generalized opinion. Their criticisms about my friends affected me both prejudicially and positively. First, I sometimes harbor the feeling that I am irresponsible. I am very sure that I am very responsible about my studies and life. And I know they know and believe that.Therefore, I think my parents should give me a little post of credit along those lines. I have explained to my parents that the in things that one or two o f my friends might be inclined to, does not necessarily diminish any(prenominal) goodness they have in their person. I told my parents that piercing or tattoo, respectively and relatively, is simply a personal expression of the inner thoughts of a person. That is why the negative effect of being criticized about the friends I keep, makes me resent the seeming distrust that my elders have on my sense of judgment and responsibility.At one point, I do give my parents the benefit of the doubt when they remind me about how I should choose my friends. I do realize that my parents simply love me and are very concerned that any of my friends will not end up to be a bad influence on me. I also appreciate that they illustrate their involvement in my life as what parents should be. I understand that there is no point in life that you will stop learning from criticisms or being miffed by criticism.Destructive or constructive, I know that the end result of criticism rest on my shoulder to prove or disprove them wrong. Much as I might try to avoid being criticized, there is really no escaping. Therefore, I simply just have to be on my toes not to miss out on my sense of discretion and responsibility about things in life. And that will speak in lesser words that whatever that criticism is it is unfounded. Work Cited Smith, L. C. , Jr. , Ph. D. , CRITICISM OUR DIS-EASE. 2006 The Writings of Laurence C. Smith, Jr. , PhD http//lcsmithphd. com/Criticism. html